For a therapist to adopt fully the AA practice of help by self-disclosure is seen as a problematic area by many schools of psychotherapy. However, experienced therapists have written about the value of self-disclosure under circumstances where: clients have difficulty in grasping and articulating their experience, the therapist uses it selectively, and the client can make use of it.”
[I have a friend in medical school – a psychiatrist in training – who tells me that AA gets tremendous credit for being the most effective addiction recovery program in existence. This surprised me, because a) I didn't know that AA's success rate is the gold standard, and b) I thought that many of AA's strategies were at odds with certain classic, psycho-therapuetic mores. The latter appears to be true, although this article suggests a welcome shift in attitude. If AA offers the best chance for recovery, than psychotherapy should follow its lead. Therapists, say the authors, should break out of their comfort zones when the failure of addiction looms; the successful treatment of alcoholism may require more communion with patients than is commonly advised.
This makes a lot of sense to me. In my own treatment (not for addiction, admittedly), my therapist never shared her own stories. I knew next to nothing about her life, and I assumed it would stay that way. But in one instance, she shattered this well-established practice – it was shocking to both of us – by sharing an incredibly intimate story about a death in her family. I could see this made her nervous. Clearly she was going out on a limb, defying her own notion of "best practices." Yet her intuition paid off. Her story changed my life, not because it made me feel any closer to her, but because it made me feel closer to others (certain others at first, and then more generally). I went from feeling confused and frustrated to feeling sympathetic and forgiving.
She told me her story, she said later, in an attempt to give me facts that she never thought I'd get, i.e. I wanted explanations from people who couldn't give them to me. The revelation of her family's secret became a stand-in for the experience I'd been missing, both literally – she told me something I never thought I'd hear – and figuratively – her story gave shape to the actions of people in my own life. She drew a parallel, but she also broke a boundary. Both helped my treatment; I can't say which helped more. This is the art of psychotherapy: the acknowledgment that, despite an appropriately clinical approach, any rules-based system is bound to fall short in the face of us. -Ed.]
Douglas Faneuil is the founder of Living Proof Productions, a not-for-profit devoted to suicide prevention based in New York City. He also designs database solutions for companies throughout the Northeast.