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		<title>Andrew Solomon: To an Aesthete Dying Young</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Sep 2010 04:31:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Douglas Faneuil</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A National Book Award–winning writer pays tribute to a Yale roommate who killed himself last year.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.proofonline.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Quote.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-138" title="Quote" src="http://www.proofonline.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Quote.jpg" alt="Quote" width="80" height="63" /></a> I was always frustrated by one area of impenetrability, which was that Terry never flagged in his enthusiasms. There was beauty in that, but there was also a closedness in it. If something went wrong, he was always immediately thrilled by what he had learned from it. If it rained, he was rapturous about all the indoor things we might never have done had there been sunshine, and if we were arguing, it was always sure to make us closer. I’ve tried for a clearer formulation of this relentless quality; at the time, it seemed like only built-in cheerfulness, but now I know that it was a way of keeping despair always at bay, and reflected not perfect resilience, but a terrified vulnerability, as though he knew that the slightest incursion of darkness would be enough to swallow him whole. It was a pleasant quality in doses, but it precluded certain depths of intimacy. You couldn’t see Terry and not have fun, and sometimes, you wanted him to be bored, or tired, just for a minute. There had to be sadness in him, but you couldn’t reach it except when it came out of him in quick, rare flashes of anger, and it’s hard to be friends with someone who will never be sad with you.</p>
<p><a title="Yale Alumni Magazine" href="http://www.yalealumnimagazine.com/issues/2010_07/suicide4657.html" target="_blank">Read Full Article</a></p>
<p><em>[This is a gorgeous essay. I hate to excerpt it at all. -Ed.]</em></p>
<p><a title="Wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Solomon" target="_blank">More on Andrew Solomon</a></p>
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		<title>Civilization and Its Couch Potatoes</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Sep 2010 22:49:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Douglas Faneuil</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Adam Curtis reveals how elites have used Freud's theories to control the crowd in an age of mass democracy.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The breadth of Freud&#8217;s influence always gives him the last laugh. His theories may be debatable, but their reach suggests more than a grain of truth.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m a fan of Freud. Despite a lot of funny ideas, his investment in self-awareness – and his method of attaining it, free association – makes him a crucial figure in the enlightenment of our species. Nonetheless, we live in dark times. I&#8217;m not a pessimist about nature, but I don&#8217;t believe in the progressive arc of history. As Freud himself asserts, human beings have to work to improve themselves. I take this to be true writ large. Without a vast, shared commitment to better our world, we <em>will</em> doom ourselves to horrors old and new. And a sentiment of shared commitment seems to be waning.</p>
<p>As always, though, bad news spells opportunity. In times of darkness, great minds usually arise to challenge the status quo; Freud himself is an example of this. Surprisingly, then, Freud&#8217;s philosophy is at the heart of the most scathing critique of modern society I have seen in some time: <a title="Wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam_Curtis" target="_blank">Adam Curtis&#8217;</a> <em>The Century of the Self</em>.</p>
<p>Curtis doesn&#8217;t take issue with Freud&#8217;s ideas directly. He attacks them for their consequences. If you have any interest in Freud whatsoever, you MUST watch this documentary. Here is Curtis in <a title="The Human Givens Institute" href="http://www.hgi.org.uk/archive/adamcurtis2.htm" target="_blank">his own words</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p>I don&#8217;t say there was a conspiracy but that consumerism had an ideology just as much as fascism or communism did. It was another way of managing the masses in an age of mass democracy. People like [Edward] Bernays were the first architects of that. And the model they used was fundamentally the pessimistic Freudian view that we are just emotional, irrational creatures and nothing more&#8230;</p>
<p>Bernays [Freud's nephew] provided the ideas that were used by the US government, big business, and the CIA to develop techniques to manage and control the minds of the American people. But this was not a cynical exercise in manipulation. Those in power believed that the only way to make democracy work and create a stable society was to repress the savage barbarism that the psychoanalysts told them lurked just under the surface of normal American life&#8230;</p>
<p>What happened was that a group of psychoanalysts took what Bernays had begun and invented a whole range of techniques to get inside and manage the unconscious mind of the consumer. By the early 50s the ideas of psychoanalysis had penetrated deep into American life. The psychoanalysts themselves became rich and powerful and had many famous politicians, writers and show business celebrities as patients. And, as their ideas took hold, a new elite began to emerge — in politics, social planning, and the business world. What linked them was the assumption that the masses were fundamentally irrational. The way to manage a free market democracy, like America, was to use their psychological understanding to control this irrationality in the interests of everyone.</p></blockquote>
<p>This may sound a bit marxist for your tastes, with its powerful elite controlling the minds of many. But Curtis is really the opposite of a conspiracy theorist – he&#8217;s interested in the consequences of good intentions. With an eye and ear for breathtaking historical detail, he illustrates how Freud&#8217;s followers undermine the notion of public good.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s safe to assume Freud would be horrified by Curtis&#8217; picture. Freud meant to demystify the unconscious, as a way of <em>freeing</em> us from pain and misery. But his savviest disciples proved to be master manipulators. More shillers than healers, they used Freud&#8217;s theories to <em>toy</em> with the unconscious instead.</p>
<p>Curtis&#8217; history is beyond shocking, if only because none of it is secret. He weaves together a grand narrative that seems utterly obvious and yet painfully fresh. Yes, it is true: Freud is the great uncle of public relations, the grandaddy of consumer culture. Watch <em>The Century of the Self</em> and you&#8217;ll be convinced.</p>
<p><a title="Google Video" href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6718420906413643126#" target="_blank">Part One: Happiness Machines</a></p>
<p><a title="Google Video" href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6718420906413643126#docid=-678466363224520614" target="_blank">Part Two: The Engineering of Consent</a></p>
<p><a title="Google Video" href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6718420906413643126#docid=-6111922724894802811" target="_blank">Part Three: There Is a Policeman Inside All Our Heads He Must Be Destroyed</a></p>
<p><a title="Google Video" href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6718420906413643126#docid=1122532358497501036" target="_blank">Part Four: Eight People Sipping Wine in Kettering</a></p>
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		<title>Daphne Merkin&#8217;s &#8216;My Life In Therapy&#8217;</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 Aug 2010 19:48:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Douglas Faneuil</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A cringeworthy tale of struggling with struggles, and the suggestion of a modicum of peace.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.proofonline.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Quote.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-138" title="Quote" src="http://www.proofonline.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Quote.jpg" alt="Quote" width="80" height="63" /></a> To this day, I’m not sure that I am in possession of substantially greater self-knowledge than someone who has never been inside a therapist’s office. What I do know, aside from the fact that the unconscious plays strange tricks and that the past stalks the present in ways we can’t begin to imagine, is a certain language, a certain style of thinking that, in its capacity for reframing your life story, becomes — how should I put this? — addictive&#8230;</p>
<p>&#8220;And yet it seems to me that the process itself, in its very commitment to interiority — its attempt to ferret out prime causes and pivotal events from the psychic rubble of the past and the unwieldy conflicts of the present — can be intriguing enough to stand in as its own reward.&#8221;</p>
<p><a title="The New York Times" href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/08/magazine/08Psychoanalysis-t.html?src=me&amp;ref=homepage" target="_blank">Read Full Article</a></p>
<p><em>[This is a doozy of an article: long-winded, self-involved, not entirely pleasant to read. The obligatory horror stories of pathologically insensitive therapists make me cringe; I believe them but feel they're sensationalized and unbalanced. With the utmost sympathy, Daphne Merkin does seem like a person destined for therapy. I don't mean this as an insult – I wouldn't be featuring this article if I did. (I wouldn't be here if I did!) Merkin's struggles are real, and she's honest about them. As a result, she doesn't offer up the most likable self-portrait. I don't know if that's her objective, but in any case she bravely illustrates a core tenant of therapy: we evade the truth of ourselves at extremely high cost. If you read this article, read it with an open mind. Daphne Merkin may not be "your kind of person," but the sympathy that she feels for herself in the face of obviously frustrating emotions is, I'm sure, a consequence of her life in therapy – a consequence and a great accomplishment. -Ed.]</em></p>
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		<title>&#8216;Bootstraps&#8217; and the Perpetuation of Illness</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jan 2010 18:45:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Douglas Faneuil</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Rigid individualism as an obstacle to health.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Pick yourself up by your bootstraps.&#8221; This isn&#8217;t just a clichéd bit of advice. Here in America, it&#8217;s a creed – a distillation of our cult of the individual. Nearly all our heroes, from Davy Crockett to <em>The Matrix</em>&#8217;s Neo, from Abraham Lincoln to Chesley &#8220;Sully&#8221; Sullenberger, come in the size and shape we prefer: the salt-of-the-earth, against-the-grain individual who, despite poor odds, manages to single-handedly transform a time and place for the better. It may take a village to raise a child, but a true hero goes it alone.</p>
<p>We&#8217;ve built an impressive civilization around the primacy of individual agency. Our near-worship of human potential, and its attendants hard work and self-sacrifice, has given us everything from the light bulb to the internet. It is safe to say that in the last two-hundred years Americans have contributed more to the advancement of knowledge than most other people. We are a nation of hard workers hoping to become heroes. We persevere.</p>
<p>The ideology of individualism is a useful one, a beneficial one. But it&#8217;s not entirely true or always helpful. &#8220;Behind every good man is a good woman.&#8221; &#8220;It takes a village to raise a child.&#8221; These are aphorisms that pay lip service to the shortcomings of our individualist bent. And if this myth of personal agency – that if you look deep within yourself you can conquer anything – is not entirely true, then where exactly does this conviction clash with reality? Where does this belief system fail us the most? In the realm of mental illness.</p>
<p>A few days ago the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/" target="_blank">New York Times</a> ran a <a title="New York Times" href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/10/magazine/10psyche-t.html?scp=1&amp;sq=Americanization%20of%20illness&amp;st=cse" target="_blank">brilliant piece</a> about how we&#8217;re exporting our &#8220;symptom repertoire&#8221; to the world, about how disparate cultures have begun to adopt our uniquely American expressions of mental anguish.</p>
<blockquote><p>NOWHERE ARE THE limitations of Western ideas and treatments more evident than in the case of schizophrenia. Researchers have long sought to understand what may be the most perplexing finding in the cross-cultural study of mental illness: people with schizophrenia in developing countries appear to fare better over time than those living in industrialized nations&#8230;</p>
<p>Trying to unravel this mystery, the anthropologist Juli McGruder from the University of Puget Sound spent years in Zanzibar studying families of schizophrenics. Though the population is predominantly Muslim, Swahili spirit-possession beliefs are still prevalent in the archipelago and commonly evoked to explain the actions of anyone violating social norms — from a sister lashing out at her brother to someone beset by psychotic delusions.</p>
<p>McGruder found that far from being stigmatizing, these beliefs served certain useful functions. The beliefs prescribed a variety of socially accepted interventions and ministrations that kept the ill person bound to the family and kinship group. “Muslim and Swahili spirits are not exorcised in the Christian sense of casting out demons,” McGruder determined. “Rather they are coaxed with food and goods, feted with song and dance. They are placated, settled, reduced in malfeasance.” McGruder saw this approach in many small acts of kindness. She watched family members use saffron paste to write phrases from the Koran on the rims of drinking bowls so the ill person could literally imbibe the holy words. The spirit-possession beliefs had other unexpected benefits. Critically, the story allowed the person with schizophrenia a cleaner bill of health when the illness went into remission. An ill individual enjoying a time of relative mental health could, at least temporarily, retake his or her responsibilities in the kinship group. Since the illness was seen as the work of outside forces, it was understood as an affliction for the sufferer but not as an identity.</p>
<p>For McGruder, the point was not that these practices or beliefs were effective in curing schizophrenia. Rather, she said she believed that they indirectly helped control the course of the illness. Besides keeping the sick individual in the social group, the religious beliefs in Zanzibar also allowed for a type of calmness and acquiescence in the face of the illness that she had rarely witnessed in the West.</p></blockquote>
<p>Mental illness is more of a crisis in America because we&#8217;re expected to take care of ourselves so completely. When we can&#8217;t – when our feelings overwhelm us to the point of breakdown – we have <em>failed</em> as individuals. And seeing illness as a personal failure doesn&#8217;t just suck; it&#8217;s a burden that can be fatal.</p>
<p>My sister was a casualty. An incredibly bright and hard-working businesswoman, she prided herself on managing a very busy schedule. She wanted a lot from life, but more than anything else she wanted to be &#8220;a success:&#8221; she wanted to buy her own car, live in her own house, run her own company, and raise a family, too. Independence with a capital &#8220;I.&#8221; (She loathed expectations of femininity. When we were kids I told her that I&#8217;d never heard a girl fart. From then on, she made a point of doing so in my presence – loudly.) By any measure, she gained the life she craved. But when illness struck, she was horrified, not so much by her feelings, but by her inability to master them, her inability to take care of herself. She wanted desperately to be independent. And quite suddenly, she couldn&#8217;t be.</p>
<p>More from the Times article:</p>
<blockquote><p>The course of a metastasizing cancer is unlikely to be changed by how we talk about it. With schizophrenia, however, symptoms are inevitably entangled in a person’s complex interactions with those around him or her. In fact, researchers have long documented how certain emotional reactions from family members correlate with higher relapse rates for people who have a diagnosis of schizophrenia. Collectively referred to as “high expressed emotion,” these reactions include criticism, hostility and emotional overinvolvement (like overprotectiveness or constant intrusiveness in the patient’s life). In one study, 67 percent of white American families with a schizophrenic family member were rated as “high EE.” (Among British families, 48 percent were high EE; among Mexican families the figure was 41 percent and for Indian families 23 percent.)</p>
<p>Does this high level of “expressed emotion” in the United States mean that we lack sympathy or the desire to care for our mentally ill? Quite the opposite. Relatives who were “high EE” were simply expressing a particularly American view of the self. <strong>They tended to believe that individuals are the captains of their own destiny and should be able to overcome their problems by force of personal will</strong> [my emphasis]. Their critical comments to the mentally ill person didn’t mean that these family members were cruel or uncaring; they were simply applying the same assumptions about human nature that they applied to themselves. They were reflecting an “approach to the world that is active, resourceful and that emphasizes personal accountability,” Prof. Jill M. Hooley of Harvard University concluded. “Far from high criticism reflecting something negative about the family members of patients with schizophrenia, high criticism (and hence high EE) was associated with a characteristic that is widely regarded as positive.”</p>
<p>Widely regarded as positive, that is, in the United States. Many traditional cultures regard the self in different terms — as inseparable from your role in your kinship group, intertwined with the story of your ancestry and permeable to the spirit world. What McGruder found in Zanzibar was that families often drew strength from this more connected and less isolating idea of human nature. Their ability to maintain a low level of expressed emotion relied on these beliefs. And that level of expressed emotion in turn may be key to improving the fortunes of the schizophrenia sufferer.</p></blockquote>
<p>My sister killed herself in 1999, just before the new millennium. She would have turned 37 last week, on January 10th. I can think of no one more independent and more responsible than she. She constantly goaded me into pushing myself to do more. &#8220;No one else is going to do it for you,&#8221; she used to say.</p>
<p>This is the dark side of American Individualism: those in need of help are loathe to seek it. This concept of Expressed Emotion, or EE, doesn&#8217;t just apply to the community; it applies to the subject as well. If friends and family are highly critical – if they are unsupportive of a person in breakdown – it&#8217;s likely the person has internalized that kind of thinking. My sister was probably the most &#8220;EE&#8221; of anyone in the family. In other words, nobody was harder on her than herself. Not surprisingly, this had a lot to do with how determined she was to persevere.</p>
<p>She could have used a little humility. Can&#8217;t we all.</p>
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		<title>&#8216;The Battlefield That&#8217;s Inside Your Mind&#8217;</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:29:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Douglas Faneuil</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A short video about surviving depression during the season of gratitude.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.proofonline.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Quote.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-138" title="Quote" src="http://www.proofonline.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/Quote.jpg" alt="Quote" width="80" height="63" /></a> I know that I have to be extra vigil around the holidays and protect myself in a technique [that] I call SEE, which is to sleep (sleep hygiene), eat good, and exercise. Sleep hygiene means going to bed at the same time each night and waking up at the same time in the morning&#8230;</p>
<p>And sometimes when I&#8217;m feeling kind of overwhelmed by &#8216;the battlefield,&#8217; I will just sort of stay away from the artificial situations and get back to my closer friends who really get what&#8217;s going on in my psyche.&#8221;</p>
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<p><em>[Amen. I'm going to make better sleep hygiene my new year's resolution. -Ed.]</em></p>
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		<title>Pepsi Ad Campaign Equates Loneliness and Suicide</title>
		<link>http://www.proofonline.org/blog/2009/08/25/pepsi-ad-campaign-equates-loneliness-and-suicide/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:28:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Douglas Faneuil</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[An artful campaign promotes a genuinely dangerous idea.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>[<a title="Responsible Marketing Blog" href="http://responsiblemarketing.com/blog/?p=758" target="_blank">This campaign</a></em><em> was <a title="DNA India" href="http://www.dnaindia.com/world/report_pepsi-kills-suicide-ad-after-internet-rage_1211895" target="_blank">pulled immediately</a>, after running once in a German lifestyle magazine. -Ed.]</em></p>
<p>From: Douglas Faneuil<br />
Subject: Re: pepsi print campaign<br />
Date: Wed, 3 Dec 2008 13:56:10 -0500<br />
To: Justin Chen</p>
<p>honestly, my guess is that the person who conceived them is a little depressed.</p>
<p>i know that sounds condescending, but to go from a can of soda to these images &#8212; it&#8217;s quite a journey.</p>
<p>i try not to take these things too seriously, because believe me i can, but what i find most troubling about these ads isn&#8217;t the imagery; it&#8217;s the conflation of loneliness with suicide.</p>
<p>when you think about it carefully, what does one really have to do with the other? i actually like the idea of &#8220;one lonely calorie.&#8221; but suicide? it&#8217;s a bit out of left field. i mean, i get the connection. but it&#8217;s an unhealthy connection. i think a healthy person would be more skeptical, and ask, &#8220;i like the loneliness concept &#8212; even a personified, despairing calorie &#8212; but suicide? where is that coming from? where is it going? is it saying anything substantive about this calorie&#8217;s loneliness? is it even, actually, portraying an aspect of loneliness?&#8221;</p>
<p>these ads suggest &#8212; pretty deeply, i think &#8212; that suicide is a logical answer to loneliness. that&#8217;s not a healthy idea, for the individual and society. (and of course it&#8217;s not true.)</p>
<p>i&#8217;m not coming at this from a moral angle; i&#8217;m more of a pragmatist about all this. we get out what we put in.</p>
<p>one can makes jokes about suicide &#8212; i make plenty of &#8216;em in the editing room &#8212; but at what expense? i just wish these ads&#8217; creators would acknowledge a cost. and i think if they did, they&#8217;d change their campaign.</p>
<p>anyway, thanks a lot for passing them on. i&#8217;m starting a blog pretty soon. i&#8217;ll post these.</p>
<p>d</p>
<blockquote><p>On Dec 3, 2008, at 1:25 PM, Justin Chen wrote:</p>
<p>Hey Doug.</p>
<p>What do you think of <a title="Responsible Marketing Blog" href="http://responsiblemarketing.com/blog/?p=758" target="_blank">this print campaign</a> by pepsi?</p></blockquote>
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